The process of shar “I married
The process of looking for soul mate in Islam is not “buying a cat in a sack” as is often alleged. But it was overwhelmed by a case full of adab. Not “try first before buying” and “sweet junk thrown out”, as the plurality of young people going out in the present.
Islam has given a clear concept about the mechanism or process of a marriage that is based Al-Qur `an and Sunnah is saheeh. Here we bring you the details:
1. Knowing potential spouses
Before a man decides to marry a woman, surely he must know in advance who the woman is about to marry, and vice versa the woman knows who he is eager to marry her. Surely the process of know-know it’s not like he lived the people who do not understand religion, so they justify dating or engagement in the context of exploring potential spouses, they said. Courtship and engagement of our unlawful without sangsikan.
The prospective spouses recognize here the intention is to know what’s his name, origin, descendants, family, conduct to use ruqyah, religion and other information that is needed. This can be done by seeking information from third parties, either from relatives of the man or the woman or from others who recognize the man / woman.
That need to be a concern, should the things that could bring down the slander (the temptation of Satan) be avoided as both sides hope to bermudah telephone calls, sms, correspondence, with reasons for wanting to ta’aruf (known-known) with a potential husband / wife. Never mind the new ta’aruf, which was officially proposed must keep himself from temptation.
Therefore, when Shaykh Salih bin Abdallah bin Fauzan al-Fauzan hafizhahullah asked about the telephone conversation between a man with a woman who has dipinangnya, he replied,
“It’s okay man spoke by phone with a woman who has dipinangnya, if indeed pinangannya been received and discussions are conducted in the framework for understanding the extent that there is need, without slander. But if it is done through the intermediary of the woman’s guardian is better and more far from doubt / slander. The conversation usually done by men and women, between young men and women, but has not lasted Applying them, but his goal to know each other, as they term it, then it is unjust, unlawful, could lead to slander and plunges to the indecency . Allaah says:
فَلاَ تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلاً مَعْرُوفًا